You are in charge of your own happiness.

I’ve been reading The Gifts of Imperfection (the tiniest book ever) for the last few months, and it has taught me a few things in my journey towards authenticity: resilience is key in wholehearted living, we have to let ourselves feel things (without judgement) in order to move past them, and that hope is learned. Let me explain…

Dear JJ,

I love you. And I enjoy you. In every season and stage. And even though we’re having a hard week, (which could turn into two weeks, or a month – Lord have mercy), doesn’t change my love for you. Some parts of motherhood are so, so hard. But they teach me to keep my heart open, to hold the tension between the hard days and the picture perfect days, and to give us both as much grace as I can. The greatest thing I could ever do for you as your mom is give myself grace, and let go of those feelings of being unqualified, of failing, let go of the mom guilt. And if you’re reading this my girl, and you’re a mom yourself now too, I hope you can do the same.

Disagreeing, together.

How do you deal with people who disagree with you? Whether it’s online or IRL, if you have any strong opinions (or a pulse), someone is going to disagree with you on something at some point. Sometimes respectfully, sometimes not. And you know what? I don’t like it! I don’t like it one bit. It’s uncomfortable, and…